Having a new baby brings changes in your relationships with everyone — including your friends. Sometimes old friends who have no children are as delighted by your baby as you are, and aside from a few accommodations to your schedule, things continue as they once did. But others may not be as excited about your new phase of life. Some may be envious, others bored, and still others may simply have no interest in children. You can't blame your friends entirely. You're changing, too. Interests you once shared with certain people — skydiving, nightclubbing, shopping for shoes till you dropped — may no longer mesh with your lifestyle.
Although you can't expect everything to stay exactly the same, it helps to strive for a balance between your old way of being together and your new situation. Your friend can't expect you to abandon all thoughts of your baby, and you can't expect her to want to talk only about motherhood. Look for common ground in your activities and time together. It's great if you can sometimes go out to lunch, just the two of you, and other times have her come to your house to visit with the baby, for example.
You may drift apart from some pals, but at the same time, your baby will bring you into the orbit of new friends. Through playgroups, mom support networks and chance encounters, you and your partner will meet other new parents with whom you have a lot in common.
Although you can't expect everything to stay exactly the same, it helps to strive for a balance between your old way of being together and your new situation. Your friend can't expect you to abandon all thoughts of your baby, and you can't expect her to want to talk only about motherhood. Look for common ground in your activities and time together. It's great if you can sometimes go out to lunch, just the two of you, and other times have her come to your house to visit with the baby, for example.
You may drift apart from some pals, but at the same time, your baby will bring you into the orbit of new friends. Through playgroups, mom support networks and chance encounters, you and your partner will meet other new parents with whom you have a lot in common.
taken from: babycenter.com
i should be thankful that none of my friends changed after me having a baby [so far lah! hehe]. yes, it's a new phase of life but they always be there for me. we don't drift apart. we still have lunch together, hang out and shopping together and gossiping like we always do. and i don't want a new circle of friends if it means i have to hang out with all the emak-emak yang sangat suka menyibuk hal orang. haha. sorry to say but i really find it annoying.
so to my dearest, luv you girls!!! hugs!
i should be thankful that none of my friends changed after me having a baby [so far lah! hehe]. yes, it's a new phase of life but they always be there for me. we don't drift apart. we still have lunch together, hang out and shopping together and gossiping like we always do. and i don't want a new circle of friends if it means i have to hang out with all the emak-emak yang sangat suka menyibuk hal orang. haha. sorry to say but i really find it annoying.
so to my dearest, luv you girls!!! hugs!
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